First Change Yourself

Hillel, a famous Jewish scholar was once visited by group of pagans, and they told Hillel that they will convert if Hillel can recite whole Torah standing on one leg.
Hillel stood on one leg and said "do not do unto other, what you would not have done unto you, this is whole Torah and rest is commentary, go and learn"
Religion is not only about believing on things, it is about believing and then practically implementing those things in your life. If you preach people to speak truth and you, yourself do not bother telling petty lies then first you need to look into yourself.

(Karen Armstrong quoted Hillel in one of her interview)

Right choices for Right destiny

Do you believe in destiny, or do you believe that everything is in the hand of an individual, and its the person himself who make his/her destiny. Its an old question, but there can be only two answer, either you believe that some supreme power is holding the strings of your destiny or you do not believe at all on any such power and firmly believe that it is your own effort and struggle that will make your destiny. If you are an atheist most probably you will go with the later thought, else if you are a traditionalist in religion, you might prefer the former.

I consider myself in second group, but i also believe that destiny to much extent is in our own hand. God has definitely marked two end points i.e. our beginning and our end, He has also marked various paths that leads to that end point, but He has left the decision to choose the path upon an individual. In the end we will reach that pre-determined destiny but the path to that destiny is all dependent on our choices. It is extremely important for any individual to make the right choices, because ultimately he will get what is there in his destiny, one way or another. 

Right choices varies from person to person, it can be considered as a mathematical equation with more variable than number of equations, there are absolutely no definite right choices, its a very subjective term. Important is to study, to explore, to observe, to read, to ask, and then determine right choices in the light of your own thoughts.

Start looking at choices you have made so far, and the choices you'll going to make in near future. Doesn't matter you identified yourself as an atheist or a believer. 

With time we change

وقت انسان کو اپنے حالات سے سمجھوتہ کرنا سکھا دیتا ہے، ایک دور تھا جب دل میں کسی ذمہ داری کا خوف نہ تھا،کسی فیصلہ سے پہلے اس کے اپنی زندگی پر اثرات اور اپنے سے جڑے دوسرے لوگوں پر ہونے والے اثر پر کبھی غور نہیں کیا تھا، خواہش تھی کہ زندگی ایک آزاد پرندے کی مانند ہو،  ایسی زندگی جس میں کوئی معاشرتی و معاشی قید نہ ہو،  زندگی جس میں کوئی سوال و جواب،  کوئی روک ٹوک نہ ہو،  مگر وقت بہت بے رحم ہے یہ جہاں زخموں کو مندمل کرتا ہے تو وہاں بہت سے خواب ٹوٹنے پر اپنے حالات سے اکتفا کرنا بھی سکھا دیتا ہےاور ایسی ہزاروں حسرتیں انسان دل میں لیے زندگی کے کاروبار میں ایسا مصروف ہوتا ہے کہ وہ خود اپنے ہاتھوں سے اپنی بہت سی خواہشات کا قتل کر دیتا ہے اور یہ کہ کے اپنے آپ کو تسلی دے لیتا ہے کہ یہ شاید میری قسمت میں ہی نہ تھا اور جو ہوتا ہے اسی میں کوئی بھلائی ہوتی ہے.

زندگی

خوشی کے چند لمہے اور اذیت کے ناختم ہونے والے لمحات، یادوں کا عذاب اور ان کے ساتھ جینا، سوچ کا نہ ختم ہونے والا سلسلہ اور ہر شے میں ان گزرے پلوں کو ڈھونڈنا،   زندگی کی تلخ حقیقت میں سے ایک ہے.